I got the corner suite! The view is so lovely.
This evening I ordered a bowl of chili and a side salad. Of late my food intake has been very moderate. Maybe the reason I haven’t had the need to overeat is because I am feeling fulfilled in other areas of my life?
The other day my father was on the receiving end of a email flame war. Someone, trying to incite him, made a very rude comment in reference to me. Dad showed it to me since I work with the fellow and I should be aware of the type of person he is. The comment has really haunted me and I am very confused as to what to do. My mother has pretty much told me that I should ignore it. Instead of dropping it from my thoughts, I’ve been thinking about how people I admire might react if faced with a similar situation. Jesus would turn the other cheek. Howard Roark would do nothing since he wouldn’t care– but more so, he wouldn’t allow himself to be haunted by it. Wayne Newton would take the bastard to court because no one messes with the Wayne-meister. Emma Peel would probably flip the jerk over her shoulder after a well-aimed karate chop to his neck. Now the big question is what will Donna do?
Document eveything! It could come in handy.
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what’s the comment…it must be good.
This has happened to me before. I’ve just used their comment in a casual situtation and let them wonder. I KNOW exactly where they are coming from now, they don’t know I have the information. Thus I move them to the bottom of my “to do” list. It make people around here quite mad. But this is my way of dealing with them. Of course, you can’t expect any help from that person anymore. OH well, its up to you. Take it easy.
-jason
I would definitely bring it up with the guy. He will be scared and uncomfortable if you mention it to him. If you are strong, firm, but not weepy or angry, it will make him more uncomfortable–he’ll get defensive or deny he did it, but then he won’t do it again. But you have to be calm and stern–that’s what he won’t expect.
Get the offender alone. Then say to him, “My father showed me the comment you made. If you have a problem with me, you should bring it up with me personally. I’m an adult, and my father is not responsible for me.”
Probably by the time you finish the second sentence he will either run away or blurt out something defensive. But, like I said, he won’t bother you again.
This strikes me as weird and pretty creepy/scummy. Why is someone your father deals with sending *him* emails with insulting remarks about *you*? Maybe it makes more sense in the context of additional facts. I would confront the guy about it; you have irrefutable proof.
BTW, never heard of an “email flamewar”; I thought flamewars occurred in Usenet.
It was a political discussion. The fellow, who was one of many people copied in, took it a bit too personally and he flipped out. Instead of debating it rationally he went for the jugular. Insulting me was his way of hurting my father. No one said anything in defense of me but I figure no one felt a need to respond since it was so outlandish. I will see this fellow face to face in January. By that time, I may be completely over it. Regardless, he has been moved to the bottom of my priority list.
Attacking a father’s daughter is *dangerous* — you need to cut this guy down a few pegs, or else your father might do it in a more direct and painful manner.
/have two daughters
Consider the source.Ignoring can say alot.It takes a big person to move on.If this guy can’t see the pitfalls in what he has done ,you won’t be able to explain it to him.I guess there are two chris’s .I might have to change my name. Signed the “Your luck was going to change chris”
I like Dawn’s way of thinking. While confrontational, it is direct and to the point. And she is 100% correct in that you have to be calm and in control. The few times I have confronted people like this I came away 100% the winner, no matter what they said. Although I get the feeling this guy would have completely forgot about come Janurary. Anyways I hope this hasn’t ruined the week, take it easy and don’t work too hard.
-Jason
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