I am off to Manhattan today. Two hours there, 8.5 hours working, Two hours back. This evening mom, Lisa, Barbara and I are going to the movies. We’re seeing Lakehouse with Sandy Bullock. It’s been so long since I saw a movie in the movie theater. I think the last one I saw was Chronicles of Narnia. I’m rather excited, it’s been awhile since I’ve seen a real girls’ movie and I could definitely use a good dose of melodrama and romance. Whenever I do online matchmaking, I find my dreams of romance and love whither away. Yesterday I got a match.com email, a really lovely email, from a man that I kinda recognized. Reading it over, it hit me. We communicated before on match.com. He was an ass. A real ass. Can it be that I have gone through all the men on match.com? Am I really not that memorable that these guys are emailing me a second time? (And this is not the first time this has happened this last stint).
donnaville
sugar and spice and everything groovy
All the good men are either married, gay, or posters on this blog.
I’ve got two strikes against me, and I’m certainly not gay. Although there was that time…
Nevermind.
Relax and enjoy your independence, and give up on those worthless dating sites. Methinks you try too hard. True love will find you when you least expect it, but you need to be looking at something other than a computer to see it!
Donna,
Sorry for the lack of luck in the man, department.
Crossing my fingers and hoping that chivalry and manners are not dead. I promise there are “men” left.
You’re not on Eharmony.com anymore? I thought that was working out best for you. Sometimes you do run out of people in your area after a while. Once you narrow down to what you are looking for, the pickings can still be kind of slim.
LOL – you should have told the story about the guy, it would have been even funnier… 🙂
Donna, methinks e-dating jumped the shark around this time last year. And if there’s anything to be learned from it, it’s “high throughput works” so don’t be surprised to get multiple or repeat e-mails as the guys who’ve been on there for a while – like you – exhaust the pool.
If so, you’ll do better to make more time for the Pontanis! Who knows, maybe you’ll meet someone at a show? But with e-dating at “steady state” you’re bound to find more of the same, with no guarantees of a “superior pool”
eHarmony was even worse that Match.com in my estimation. I did do eHarmony last year around this time and it just didn’t work. Then I met someone, got pissed, joined up for eHarmony around October, did nothing about it because I was no longer pissed and I let my membership expire. When May came around and I was free as the singing birds in the trees, I thought it would be nice to get out more so I joined Match with the focus of just going out on dates. So far I have gone out on 3 dates and I am having a very difficult time motivating myself to keep going.
Donna,
My bud Jefe found true love through a dating service that catered to single professionals who were sick or disallusioned with the major online sites. It is called “Table for Two” in Minneapolis, and it might be a franchise with operations in your area.
They set up dates with like minded single professionals over lunch and pick up the tab. What happens after the first date is up to you. It worked for him much better than the bigger sites. Very personal, very active and…somewhat expensive.
That sounds like a good idea, but I would be afraid I would mislead the men because I am sure they spent a crap load of money to find a wife and that isn’t what I am into at the moment. All I want is to go on some dates with nice guys, find a fellow who is kind and decent and wants to listen to music with me, watch crazy movies, take walks, play with Bo and call me from time to time. It would move slow but he would be open to more occuring, just not all at once. That seems to be the problem. Either the guy wants to get married tomorrow or he is petrified by the thought of commitment.
Understood, but I would not characterize it as “spending crap loads of money for a wife”. This isn’t a Russian bride service. :^)
He just found it more entertaining to meet women established in their careers, with the same problem as he had…lack of exposure. It sort of weeds out the riff-raff and not-so-serious players. TFT screened his matches more in-depth than any on-line site via personal interviews, and he had at least one lunch date per week. It was actually so successful, he had to tell them to stop fixing him up because he could not keep up! The “magic” happened after a couple of months.
Oh and by the way, there is always “Craigslist” under the “casual encounters” section. :^) Tee Hee.