Yesterday, Rob and I went to one of his friend’s 40th birthday party. We ate and ate and drank and drank and then I joined the kids on the trampoline. As the radio played Joan Jett’s I Love Rock and Roll, I jumped up and down and up and down! It was so much fun and truly a great workout. I wish I could get one for my backyard– except I don’t really have a backyard since I live in a fascist townhouse community. The gestapo forced me to take down my Ron Paul sign, could you imagine how they’d freak if I erected a huge trampoline?
We sat with Steve and Caren and I mentioned her pending wedding shower. Just as the words were out of my mouth Steve said, “Uh, Donna, it’s a surprise shower.”
“Well, Steve, if it’s a Surprise Shower how come that wasn’t stated on the invitation or mentioned to me when I RSVPed?”
“My sister screwed up.”
This may sound insane but I am a little ticked off by this situation. I don’t feel bad that I let the cat out of the bag but I am pissed off for a few other reasons.
1. Surprise showers are cute for little twenty somethings who haven’t spent the last 40 years dreaming of getting married. Give this woman a break and let her in on it. I am glad I said something because she later told me that Steve told her there wasn’t going to be a shower! I am sorry but that is plain cruel.
2. Rob said, “You shouldn’t have said anything- It’s just common sense.” NO IT’S NOT! Showers are not typically SURPRISE Parties. I wouldn’t have said a word had someone clued me to the fact that it was a surprise- like on the invitation or when I called to RSVP. Every shower I have ever gone to, and I have gone to quite a few and even helped plan one (Hiya Audgie!), not a single one was a surprise. The brides know exactly when, where, what and why.
3. I guess there isn’t a 3. Well, maybe the third reason why I am pissed is I wish Rob, rather than scolding me, said, “Gosh Steve, it’s just common sense to put Surprise Party on the invitation!”
Okay, and now I am finished. I am dropping this episode from my mind. I am not going to chew on it anymore. Stick a fork in this situation, IT’S DONE!
I agree with you. Surprise showers are no onger the norm, and if it is a surprise, the invite usually says, “Shh..it’s a surprise!”
Speaking of un-surprise showers, my baby shower is going to be June 8. I haven’t sent any invitations yet, but don’t plan any vacations 40th birthday parties or anything that day.
Erm, methinks it’s not a good idea to criticize your man on your blog for the world to see.
Not that you’re wrong wrt the ridiculousness of the surprise factor, or mentioning the shower in public.
Just sayin’ – I wouldn’t appreciate it.
I am so lucky that Rob is a man and not hyper-sensitive.
…and also illiterate. J/K LOL