Lisa and I visited the breeder last night. The puppy was so cute however I focused my attention on the mother since cute puppies eventually grow up. The mother Maltese was HUGE! And kind of ugly. I held her in my arms and it didn’t feel right. I whispered to Lisa, “I don’t feel it– I feel no connection!”
Lisa nodded and agreed, “Me neither.”
We left puppyless.
My date with Bob went rather well. Bob scored big points with me at the beginning of the date because he brought me Josh Early CANDIES from Allentown!!!! When I opened the box, it was full of Peppermint Patties. “MY FAVORITE!” I exclaimed.
“Yes, I know. You wrote it on your profile.”
How nice and wonderful is that?
The conversation came easily. We spoke of dogs and breeders and dog shows. Eventually other topics came too. WHEN THE BILL CAME, BOB PAID! Very nice touch. I said we should get coffee at Starbucks and then I could treat. It was at Starbucks that Bob for some odd reason decided to rub my back. I had sidestepped that action 3 times before on the walk to Starbucks so I am unsure what made him think it was welcome. Instead of playing it subtle I decided to be proactive. “Please stop touching me, Bob. I am sorry but I am not a touchy feely type.”
Bob was very gentlemanly about it and said, “Okay.” I thought he might be pissy for the rest of the evening but he wasn’t. He acted as if nothing had happened.
We talked even longer at Starbucks. At 11:00 I said it was time to end the evening and I asked Bob to walk me to my car. AND HE DID! Again, very nice touch. At the car I gave him a hug goodbye and Bob asked if he could see me again. I said yes.
Not bad.
I called my mother in the car ride home and said, “Why is it there are so many girls that give blow jobs to strangers and can have sex on the first night and I get angry at Bob for touching my back?”
My mother replied, “I guess I failed in raising you.”
It would be nice to hear from Bob again. If I don’t, my world will not be shattered.
LMAO – Your comments to your mom are hilarious – but well thought out.
Just a suggestion re: the pet search-consider adopting a dog from a shelter. There are dogs of all ages and types in them; there are even shelters that specialize in rescuing specific breeds. And when you adopt from a shelter you help make room for another homeless pet.
There’s a really good website-www.petfinder.org-for locating shelters by area; they have pictures of the pets for adoption and even a search function.
Sounds nice. You shouldn’t date any man who dosn’t offer to pay. A man pays.
Don’t understand your ‘back thing’, or what you mean by ‘rub my back’ because I can’t think of a situation where I’d be walking or standing behind my date at any point during any date (and I date a lot). But I think you handled it well. Best to be direct. From the way you write it though, it sounds creepy.
That said, if you really like the guy, be a bit more proactive about touch (grab his hand, nuzzle up to him when you’re walking, etc.) because that will give you control over it and he’ll feel less confused. Remember, we (men) have grown up trained to believe that if a woman isn’t “physically affectionate” then she’s not interested (take that as you will). You don’t want to come off chilly, but you don’t have to be a whore…
Good luck! And don’t tell Bob about donnaville.com, ever! He’d probably be really pissed to find a synopsis of the date online. I would.
Sounds like your date went well.I could tell by your last statement wedding bells might not be in the near future. I use sort of the some saying” My world did not stop turning” It would amase me if the guy did not pay or walk you to the car, open the car door etc.Then again i might be old fashioned.And your right with the touching thing,thats something you slowly work into.If you can say to yourslef at the end of a date”I’m glad i met him” thats a good sign .If not “The world did not stop turning.” P.S. sometimes my spelling might not be the best,please dont through me under the bus.See ya later:-)
I’m glad things turned out good. The back rubs are weird when you first meet somebody. You and your mom have a very funny sense of humor.
Just as a side, I really try to limit touchy/feely thing for the first few dates. Ironically I’m a VERY touchy feely guy, I just recognise that lots of people are not. Its funny many of my long term GF have thought I was gay before they knew me. OH well, anyways take it easy and I do hope you keep on meeting more and more good guys.
-Jason