I don’t write much these days; it’s hard being wife, mom, stepmom, business owner, and lazy person. With the new year upon us, it’s time to revisit my past New Year’s resolutions— and it’s one thing I won’t put off.
How I did
1. Stop investing so much time into Facebook. Instead, read more books.
FAILURE. I continue to invest entirely too much time into Facebook. It’s lost time because I get very little useful information from it. I liken my usage of Facebook to video games or playing solitaire. It’s a way to pass time in an unproductive manner.
I wanted to replace my Facebook addiction with reading. I purchased a slew of e-books but I didn’t click a single one open. FAILURE. I think the reason I failed is Facebook is so easy to dive in. It requires so very little brainpower. And because I do have friends there, I feel a warm and fuzzy connection when I use it.
2. Get this new house livable OR find a new house to buy
SUCCESS! It was right around the last new year when I realized the house we were living in was never going to work for us and the only thing to do was sell it and buy a new one. I remember Eddie had some friends over and his youngest daughter had a friend over and with the house teeming with an extra 3 people, I found that the only place I could go was our bedroom with little Jimmy.
Sitting there because there was simply no other place for me, I became determined to find a new home. I opened up Trulia and found a listing for a house in the development across from where we were living. The next day we went to the Open House and fell in love with it. The house had everything we wanted: 4 bedrooms, 2 baths, an office, and a basement (with a bar!). The only thing we needed to do was sell my condo.
The very next day I called my Realtor with the intention of firing her. Just as I was about to say, “Lynne, you have failed me for the last time..” she said, “Donna I found a cash buyer for your property!” Lynne still failed me because it was a low ball offer that I was pretty much forced to accept but at least I got rid of it. Lynne was a double agent and collected a huge commission for basically doing nothing and then she came after me to pay her an additional 125.00 for some stilly document printing fee. Unbelievable, right?
So anyway, we put an offer on the new house and by April it was ours and we moved in in May. We replaced the carpets and painted. We love living here. There’s room for all of us.
3. In terms of work, I want to spend as much time with Jimmy as possible.
SUCCESS! I wasn’t quite sure what was going to happen after I gave birth. I own a business and have always been the one driving the ship. Luckily, one of my vendors stepped up and kept the ship moving forward as I took a 4 month maternity leave.
Around March I began working again. My mom said she would watch Jimmy. At first it didn’t quite work because my mom couldn’t understand that arriving at my house at 11 and leaving at 3 wasn’t putting in a full day. Eventually I realized that I could work at her house which allowed me to set the schedule. As I work in my dad’s old office, my mom is downstairs with Jimmy. When Jimmy wants to see me, he just drags his g-ma up the stairs. And when I want to see him, I venture down.
It works out really well although I realize that this can’t go on forever and I am going to have to relieve my mom. She’s getting old and I know this is hard on her. I will have to find a babysitter or a daycare facility soon.
4. Get back to my old size.
PARTIAL FAILURE. When I made the resolution to get back to my old size, I was about 40 lbs heavier than my old size. I took 20 lbs off pretty easily. Even though I have another 20 lbs to go, I really doubt I can get back to my old size.
I am beginning to realize that wasn’t a natural or healthy weight. I maintained that weight because all I ate was triscuits, pickles, cottage cheese, and wine. Being a wife and mom, I cook dinner almost every night and I partake in real food.
I believe I can probably get down 10lbs which will get me close to my old weight and into my old wardrobe but without the starvation. The thing is, I don’t think I will be able to hit that goal for at least a year.
It was a good year. Hell, it was a GREAT year! 2014 was the year I lived the life I always wanted to live. It was the life that eluded me for years. Wife, mother, business owner. The good news is, it was everything I had hoped and believed it would be. I love being a wife. I love being a mother. I look forward to 2015.